Site Note: Mawds
So I think I got everyone who volunteered. You should see a little Mods symbol next to your name. You can get into the Admin panel when you sign in to Disqus.
If I missed anyone, let me know.
I mentioned USSR and Stalin because under Stalin dictatorship you were not allowed to question certain things (for example: abuses by the authority), and if you did, you were silenced, and all evidence of your existence removed.
I won’t use Stalin/Hitler analogy anymore because some of you find it insulting, and it seems to detract from the point I am making. I also apologize if it triggered you.
Melissa is a (virtual) community leader, and when the discussion she started doesn’t go her way, she does act like a despot.
Shakesville is not a country, it is a BLOG, but it is also a COMMUNITY. A community (even if it is virtual) IS like a small country. And I don’t believe that you can talk about social justice, and at the same time bully and belittle people in the community, even if it is an online community that you personally run. I believe it is unacceptable because a community is made up of real people.
Melissa McEwan does silence people all the time - she bans people from the discussion and then edits what they have posted. When replying, she takes a great pleasure in quoting a line or two out of context, deletes the original comment so nobody sees the context, misinterprets what the person said, and then writes a snarky insult below.
Melissa McEwan did not kill or imprison anyone, but she psychologically and emotionally hurts people all the time, and no one on this site can dispute that!
And when saying “Melissa never stated she hates X”, please don’t listen to the Melissa McEwan says, instead look at how she ACTS. There are plenty of examples in her own blog of her being a jerk, a bully, a hypocrite to the people both online and offline, to find them you only have to be to look past the words she says, and look directly at her actions.
I stand by what I said, Melissa McEwanis a narcissistic, manipulative, smile-to-neighbor’s-face-then-talk-shit-behind-their-back, cowardly, backstabbing, name-calling, immature woman, both online and offline.
MM is “taking a break for her health,” expecting to return on September 16. I will be taking bets on whether or not she does come back.
I’m curious as well….
OP from the “we never do anything to the pets without their consent” Ask. It took me over an hour, but I finally found the post. It is here: http://www.shakesville.com/2012/10/daily-dose-of-cute_29.html
What she actually said — in the post, not in comments — was, “We never, ever, hold any of the animals against their will.”
So, not as absurd as I recalled, and also not in the context of a discussion about rape culture (although arguably that was implied).
My comments about the need to restrain animals for vet visits, medication administration, etc. still apply — unless you read between the lines and suppose that what MM really meant was something like, “We never, ever, cuddle any of the animals against their will.” Which is totally reasonable, and I am solidly in agreement about the ethics here.
All of which is to say that I am, on reflection, inclined to agree that Asks that purport to paraphrase Melissa and do not include a link, screenshot, or quote should not be entertained. I do think an Ask to the effect of, “I seem to remember MM saying something along the lines of X, but I’m not sure. Can anybody find it?” is fine.
My two cents, a mea culpa, and a thanks to the SKAers who raised the issue.
On the Asks side, do you all think this is a legit big deal if something isn’t clear from the Ask, or something isn’t recalled correctly? I’ve always seen it like “meh, mistakes happen.”
I don’t have anything mean to say about the health problems but I don’t enjoy that little jab at the bottom either….
But I’m not sure I have anything particularly snarky to say about this most recent Shakesville sabbatical. I’m glad she’s engaging in the self-care she needs, and it also means that her commentariat gets some distance and head space. Hostile lurkers might not believe this, but I sincerely do wish her well.
(My cynical side has expecting this since the Ana thing tbh and I definitely don’t think it’s a coincidence; of course there’s a nice reference to “escalated harassment” and we all know who she’s swiping at, so there’s that.)
I don’t about the health problems. Med changes suck, unexpected health problems are awful and I’m glad she’s taking a couple weeks off.
Vista couple, PETA at odds over animal care at longtime animal-breeding ranch
I posted about all the chinchillas hitting the San Diego animal shelter. But I wanted to post an update to this. I think we all know PETA can be real dicks so it’s wonderful to see an update and the other side of the story. Because the other side is actually even better. The couple that owned the chinchilla herd actually stopped fur farming to sell them as pets in the 70s just based off the adorableness.
It made me feel a little better anyway, seeing that picture of a woman kissing her baby <3
So I think I need another mod or two to cover when I’m away or saturated with work or w/e. I thought about appointing people but I don’t like the idea of it appearing as I’m playing favorites. Also, what if they don’t want to mod what then hmmm?
So I thought maybe self nominations or you could nominate someone or something.
- You need a tumblr account. I’m going to let you approve Asks/Submissions
- Gotta be around a bit.
- Disqus account
- Gmail account so we can chat if we need to
Let me know! It would mainly just be when I’m away or super busy. I don’t like the idea of announcing it to the whole internets so I’d rather just tell one person and have them look after the site.
Fun fact! People dress up chihuahuas because they legitimately get cold
Chihuahuas are the smallest dog breed in the world. This means the weather, temperature, and elements will affect them more. Something as simple as a warm sweater or just a shirt for your Chihuahua could make a big difference in keeping them warm and healthy, which is what every Chihuahua owner should want.
I absolutely did not look that up so I could see little chihuahuas dressed in clothes. It was for diligence.
Anyhow, the other stuff is up for debate. Neutering a domestic animal has other benefits, like a lack of strays that end up euthanized.
"Abusing their instincts to protect your home and family," I don’t really get. Are you saying using dogs to guard their home or cats to mouse are bad things and go against their instincts? Because I’m pretty sure that’s why we have these animals.
Fattening farm animals is a whole different issue though. You can make choices to find sustainable beef, chicken and pork if you’re against that as well. Which I am.
She doesn’t seem to know the difference between an apology and a non-apology, http://www.shakesville.com/2014/08/good-grief_27.html. The ESPN quote she included and called a ‘tepid non-apology’ is a pretty good example of taking responsibility:
"ESPN regrets the manner in which we presented our report. Clearly yesterday we collectively failed to meet the standards we have set in reporting on LGBT-related topics in sports."
I’d say beginning at the Clearly part they’re being sincere. Does MM just not get that editors typically don’t do some massive mea culpa and they have official language they use for apologies or retractions?
It’s called “I don’t always have time to go trawling the site for 100% verified anything and in comparison to Shakesville, our track record is pretty good”
Someone asked whether anyone met Melissa personally, and in the comments another poster commented that it would be interesting to know Melissa’s neighbors perspective, to know what is Melissa’s personality like offline.
Well, I remember her writing about how she went to walk her dogs, and there were her neighbors who are an elderly couple, and she mentioned that she hates them, because like many elderly people, they always small-talk about illnesses and ailments.
Notice how she did not confront her neighbors about the issue, did not talk about it to them, did not do anything to change the situation; instead, she went home, logged into her website, and _there_ complained about the elderly couple who live next door.
The only time Melissa McEwan acts tough is when backed up by her trigger-happy moderators team.The only time she confronts anyone is to demean them publicly and at a space where she can hit a button and make a person disappear. Seriously, if Shakesville was a country, it would be Germany under Hitler, or USSR under Stalin- you say something that the leader disapproves, or create a conversation about something that makes him uncomfortable, the leader sends gestapo police to silence you with force, ridicule, propaganda, make you disappear.
So if you wanted to know what is Melissa’s personality like offline - there you have it, folks!
Dogs have four legs, cats have four legs, and Melissa McEwanis a narcissistic, manipulative, smile-to-neighbor’s-face-then-talk-shit-behind-their-back, cowardly, backstabbing, name-calling, immature woman, both offline and online.
Ugh, those poor neighbors! I hate it when people are cruel to the elderly. My grandmother, in the last years of her life, used to tell me about what they ate for lunch and I was happy with that. Sorry your neighbors aren’t as clued in as you MM.
I think Suey Park trying to turn her recent break up into a SJ issue is a good example….
Her narrative is so far from the truth, I swear to god. I also can’t buy any of her apologies or anything else. She is why proverbial stories about naked rich men convincing people they wear robes exist.